Communication & Abundance: A simple tool to go from defensive to calm in challenging conversations

I was with one of my friends a few months ago and found myself in a bit of a rant. It went something like this:

If we could all just communicate - not react, judge, assume, or defend, but actually communicate authentically without charge - we would discover we have more in common than we think and have more compassion and love to share.

Communicating is the basis of abundance and creating what you desire.

Clarity, boundaries, connection, love, to be seen and understood. So much of our ability to navigate the world henges on 1) being aware of ourselves, our needs and our desires and 2) being able to communicate all of that to others.

Communication creates a foundation for successful relationships in our personal and professional lives.

And yet… it can be SO HARD to communicate.

Why?

Because we have baggage and big feels from past traumas and experiences - old messages, patterns, and belief systems - that interrupt our ability to communicate what’s actually happening in various situations in our lives…

How to let go of hope that your parent will change and care about you.

Last weekend was Mother’s Day and soon enough it will be Father’s Day also. For many these days are celebratory, but for many others they highlight challenging or nonexistent parent relationships.

Today’s Ask Kelsey Question is for those who have the latter.

It’s a big one, and the answer, or at least my answer, is not something you can do once and forever be healed.

In essence, it’s the journey we’re all on in some form:

The journey of healing from the past, becoming our own parent, rewiring old stories that no longer serve us, choosing not to be defined by the actions or perspectives of others, and choosing new ways of being that enable us to receive more love on all levels.

NBD (no big deal)…

Drop The Fight & Discover More Love: How I prepared for a very challenging conversation

What if I told you the same old fights could have an entirely different outcome?

When you’re feeling attacked, it’s easy to get defensive.

But going head to head usually doesn’t gain headway, just a couple of hurt heads.

The most successful conversations I’ve had with coworkers, family members, employees and clients have been when I dropped the fight.

A few months back I was preparing for a challenging conversation. One of those where I felt judged and attacked by this person from an email they sent and I knew I couldn’t just brush it off as no big deal.

Now, this is someone I cannot just avoid and for my own self worth I wanted to speak my truth and respond to their harsh words.

So I prepared. And it looked like this…

Protect your energy & speak with love when talking politics

Hi. I see you. I hear you. I understand where you’re coming from and I respect who you are.

Wouldn’t it be great if all conversations went like this - let alone those about politics?

I’ve never really been politically active or involved, other than voting and going to certain marches and rallies, but these days I’ve felt called to be more vocal and stand up in the ways that I’m able for what I believe in - all the while with a great deal of love.

Yes, I’m going to speak up and speak my truth, yes, I may be fierce as I do, but my intention is to also be guided by love. To seek understanding, connection and healing for us all.

Over the past month as I’ve been more vocal, so, too, have those who disagree with me.

In each situation I did my best to respond clearly, powerfully and, as I mentioned, with as much love as possible…

Healing From Anxiety: Creating lasting change (Part 2 of 2)

Healing from anxiety usually doesn’t happen overnight, but I know from my own healing journey that it is possible to create lasting change.

Whether you are experiencing intense anxiety or merely desire a life of more abundance and ease, the same practices apply.

It takes time, dedicated practice, and ever-present self-love.

Healing comes in waves so be patient with yourself.

Ask for the support you need and apply what I share in today’s Ask Kelsey - and in the links below - to make the process easier…

Healing From Anxiety: Grounding in the moment (Part 1 of 2)

In today’s Ask Kelsey I speak about what to do when your fears, worries, and concerns take over. When you’re not just a little upset, but you are starting to spiral out of control.

You may not even know why. You may just feel a sense of panic and be on high alert for anything that might bring you harm, real or imagined.

From the politics in the United States to the #MeTooMovement to our own complicated personal lives, its easy for our old patterns of fear to take over.

If you find yourself steeped in anxiety, do your best to love yourself in that state.

Your state of panic is not a call for judgment and it is not a reason to beat yourself up.

If you are humming with anxious energy, it is a call for more love. (Click to tweet.)

Watch the video to learn my top tips to find your grounding in the moment as well as find notes and additional resources below…

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