Posts in Ask Kelsey
Self-Care VS. Selfish: How do we navigate cultural messages that tell us to never put ourselves first?

I know so many who have struggled with the line between self-care and selfish.

I, too, have done my own dance with it - wondering if it's safe and okay for me to be extraordinarily happy, abundantly wealthy, and continually receive more.

Or perhaps I am just a selfish bitch. (Thankfully I can't even type those words without laughing out loud!)

We live in a culture that says things like…

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Face Judgment with Big Love

Ever have the feeling you are rocking out, so proud of yourself and what you are doing, confident and secure… and then you share with someone who doesn’t get it and all those feelings disappear?

I would imagine that all of our hands are going up. Even the seemingly most confident people I’ve met still have moments of insecurity when being judged.

And yet, facing judgment is inevitable. In fact, if you are really standing in your truth, it is more likely you will be judged.

So then what?

How do you navigate the world, authentically being you and doing what you love, when you know you could be judged?

This is what today’s Ask Kelsey is all about…

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How to let go of hope that your parent will change and care about you.

Last weekend was Mother’s Day and soon enough it will be Father’s Day also. For many these days are celebratory, but for many others they highlight challenging or nonexistent parent relationships.

Today’s Ask Kelsey Question is for those who have the latter. 

It’s a big one, and the answer, or at least my answer, is not something you can do once and forever be healed. 

In essence, it’s the journey we’re all on in some form:

The journey of healing from the past, becoming our own parent, rewiring old stories that no longer serve us, choosing not to be defined by the actions or perspectives of others, and choosing new ways of being that enable us to receive more love on all levels. 

NBD (no big deal)…

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How To Stay Positive: Facing pessimistic thoughts with love

Yesterday I set out to make a new Ask Kelsey video.

The question was about how to interrupt pessimistic thinking and remain positive, especially when facing daily challenges and messages of self-judgment. 

It was a good one! 

And I had great answers!! Simple tools that have helped me stay present and shift myself back to a miracle mindset.

So I went about setting up the space, preparing the camera equipment and recording as usual, but when I took a look at the first recording, it was blurry.

Okay, I said. No problem. I made some adjustments and re-recorded, thinking this take was even better! 

But when I looked at the footage, it was yet again blurry. Hmmm, okay, I say to myself. Let’s make another attempt. This time just a test. Everything appeared to be functioning properly so I went into another take. This one, again, even more lovely than the last. 

Yep, you guessed it: Blurry…

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Protect your energy & speak with love when talking politics

Hi. I see you. I hear you. I understand where you’re coming from and I respect who you are.

Wouldn’t it be great if all conversations went like this - let alone those about politics?

I’ve never really been politically active or involved, other than voting and going to certain marches and rallies, but these days I’ve felt called to be more vocal and stand up in the ways that I’m able for what I believe in - all the while with a great deal of love.

Yes, I’m going to speak up and speak my truth, yes, I may be fierce as I do, but my intention is to also be guided by love. To seek understanding, connection and healing for us all.

Over the past month as I’ve been more vocal, so, too, have those who disagree with me.

In each situation I did my best to respond clearly, powerfully and, as I mentioned, with as much love as possible…

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Healing From Anxiety: Creating lasting change (Part 2 of 2)

Healing from anxiety usually doesn’t happen overnight, but I know from my own healing journey that it is possible to create lasting change.

Whether you are experiencing intense anxiety or merely desire a life of more abundance and ease, the same practices apply.

It takes time, dedicated practice, and ever-present self-love.

Healing comes in waves so be patient with yourself.

Ask for the support you need and apply what I share in today’s Ask Kelsey - and in the links below - to make the process easier…

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Healing From Anxiety: Grounding in the moment (Part 1 of 2)

In today’s Ask Kelsey I speak about what to do when your fears, worries, and concerns take over. When you’re not just a little upset, but you are starting to spiral out of control. 

You may not even know why. You may just feel a sense of panic and be on high alert for anything that might bring you harm, real or imagined. 

From the politics in the United States to the #MeTooMovement to our own complicated personal lives, its easy for our old patterns of fear to take over. 

If you find yourself steeped in anxiety, do your best to love yourself in that state. 

Your state of panic is not a call for judgment and it is not a reason to beat yourself up. 

If you are humming with anxious energy, it is a call for more love. (Click to tweet.)

Watch the video to learn my top tips to find your grounding in the moment as well as find notes and additional resources below…

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A quick and easy self-care practice for busy moms

Too busy for self-care? Having trouble refilling between work and family life? Then today’s Ask Kelsey video is for you.

Our question comes from an entrepreneurial mom curious about something she can do every single day that is quick and easy to help her stay connected to herself.

Entrepreneurial mom or not, anyone who is running around forgetting to put themselves at the top of the list can benefit from this question.

Watch the video below for my answer, including a simple healing tool to help you feel connected and present that only takes 2 minutes…

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Face Fears & Gain Confidence: Feel at home in your body

Whenever we go out of our comfort zone to attempt something new, it can be terrifying. And the bigger the leap, the more likely old limiting beliefs are going to crop up like weeds to keep you "safe." 

Today's Ask Kelsey question touches on the part of us that is worried about taking flight and the answer is all about coming home to and feeling safe in our bodies - in this moment, just as we are. 

The more safe and embodied we feel, the more we can be present and available to newness because we start to realize that we are already safe, no matter where we go, what we do or what we choose to accomplish…

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