How To Stay Positive: Facing pessimistic thoughts with love

Yesterday I set out to make a new Ask Kelsey video.

The question was about how to interrupt pessimistic thinking and remain positive, especially when facing daily challenges and messages of self-judgment. 

It was a good one! 

And I had great answers!! Simple tools that have helped me stay present and shift myself back to a miracle mindset.

So I went about setting up the space, preparing the camera equipment and recording as usual, but when I took a look at the first recording, it was blurry.

Okay, I said. No problem. I made some adjustments and re-recorded, thinking this take was even better! 

But when I looked at the footage, it was yet again blurry. Hmmm, okay, I say to myself. Let’s make another attempt. This time just a test. Everything appeared to be functioning properly so I went into another take. This one, again, even more lovely than the last. 

Yep, you guessed it: Blurry…

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How do you want to feel this holiday season? Conscious Holiday Tips To Honor Your Desires

Two years ago, I decided I was done feeling sick and rundown on Christmas.

I was done giving in to what others wanted and I was ready to honor my desires not just throughout the holiday season, but also going into the new year.

So I sat down and thought about what I wanted to feel instead.

I wanted to feel healthy, energized and connected - to myself and to others.

Just having this shift in awareness helped me feel more abundant, but I knew I needed to get even more clear. I went deeper and made a list of what could help me feel healthy, energized and connected.

I came up with the following…

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Drop The Fight & Discover More Love: How I prepared for a very challenging conversation

What if I told you the same old fights could have an entirely different outcome?

When you’re feeling attacked, it’s easy to get defensive.

But going head to head usually doesn’t gain headway, just a couple of hurt heads.

The most successful conversations I’ve had with coworkers, family members, employees and clients have been when I dropped the fight.

A few months back I was preparing for a challenging conversation. One of those where I felt judged and attacked by this person from an email they sent and I knew I couldn’t just brush it off as no big deal.

Now, this is someone I cannot just avoid and for my own self worth I wanted to speak my truth and respond to their harsh words.

So I prepared. And it looked like this…

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Protect your energy & speak with love when talking politics

Hi. I see you. I hear you. I understand where you’re coming from and I respect who you are.

Wouldn’t it be great if all conversations went like this - let alone those about politics?

I’ve never really been politically active or involved, other than voting and going to certain marches and rallies, but these days I’ve felt called to be more vocal and stand up in the ways that I’m able for what I believe in - all the while with a great deal of love.

Yes, I’m going to speak up and speak my truth, yes, I may be fierce as I do, but my intention is to also be guided by love. To seek understanding, connection and healing for us all.

Over the past month as I’ve been more vocal, so, too, have those who disagree with me.

In each situation I did my best to respond clearly, powerfully and, as I mentioned, with as much love as possible…

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Healing From Anxiety: Creating lasting change (Part 2 of 2)

Healing from anxiety usually doesn’t happen overnight, but I know from my own healing journey that it is possible to create lasting change.

Whether you are experiencing intense anxiety or merely desire a life of more abundance and ease, the same practices apply.

It takes time, dedicated practice, and ever-present self-love.

Healing comes in waves so be patient with yourself.

Ask for the support you need and apply what I share in today’s Ask Kelsey - and in the links below - to make the process easier…

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Healing From Anxiety: Grounding in the moment (Part 1 of 2)

In today’s Ask Kelsey I speak about what to do when your fears, worries, and concerns take over. When you’re not just a little upset, but you are starting to spiral out of control. 

You may not even know why. You may just feel a sense of panic and be on high alert for anything that might bring you harm, real or imagined. 

From the politics in the United States to the #MeTooMovement to our own complicated personal lives, its easy for our old patterns of fear to take over. 

If you find yourself steeped in anxiety, do your best to love yourself in that state. 

Your state of panic is not a call for judgment and it is not a reason to beat yourself up. 

If you are humming with anxious energy, it is a call for more love. (Click to tweet.)

Watch the video to learn my top tips to find your grounding in the moment as well as find notes and additional resources below…

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Emmys Adventures: How to navigate big events as a sensitive soul

So… life has been deliciously full so I forgot to mention that my now husband and I are headed back to the Emmys this year!

(Yes, Ballard and I got married just two months ago! He works for The Late Show With Stephen Colbert and we are blessed to get to attend the televised Emmy Awards in LA thanks to Stephen and his wife for the second year in a row!)

Now, as a highly sensitive person, big events can be daunting. There’s the staying up late, the interacting with lots of people with different energies, and, especially if it’s a new experience, the uncertainty of not knowing what to expect.

Attending the Emmys last year could have easily exhausted and overwhelmed me not just because it was my first time attending and it’s a very long televised event, but also because I was in my friend’s wedding in Utah the night before!

After an already full weekend of wedding prep and an evening of celebration in honor of my amazing friend, I awoke at 4am to take a car to a bus to the airport to another car to finally arrive at the hotel, get my makeup done and walk to the red carpet a mere 30 minutes later.

Yet instead of feeling all tuckered out, I felt invigorated, supported, deliciously glam and extraordinarily abundant.

Here’s how I did it and my advice for preparing for big events as a sensitive soul…

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Self-Care VS. Selfish: How do we navigate cultural messages that tell us to never put ourselves first?

I know so many who have struggled with the line between self-care and selfish.

I, too, have done my own dance with it - wondering if it's safe and okay for me to be extraordinarily happy, abundantly wealthy, and continually receive more.

Or perhaps I am just a selfish bitch. (Thankfully I can't even type those words without laughing out loud!)

We live in a culture that says things like…

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A quick and easy self-care practice for busy moms

Too busy for self-care? Having trouble refilling between work and family life? Then today’s Ask Kelsey video is for you.

Our question comes from an entrepreneurial mom curious about something she can do every single day that is quick and easy to help her stay connected to herself.

Entrepreneurial mom or not, anyone who is running around forgetting to put themselves at the top of the list can benefit from this question.

Watch the video below for my answer, including a simple healing tool to help you feel connected and present that only takes 2 minutes…

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